First off, thank you to everyone who expressed interest and then was patient and understanding when I didn't show up on Friday with my post as planned. Life did some unexpected things and I spent most of the weekend on the road. But I'm back now, and here's the promised post! If you want to … Continue reading Thankfulness Link Up
"I just don't feel heard," she texted me. "I know, but I hear you," I thought. *** Awkward silence was the norm in the kitchen at one place I worked. You'd slip in for coffee or water or your lunch, and shuffle around each other with cringing politeness and fumble for what you came for in … Continue reading Being seen, being heard
I've been busy elsewhere! I was really honored to have Rachel Held Evans ask me to guest post for her on SGM a couple months ago, and she was patient with me as I kept pushing it off to recover from crazy life stuff. I finally got her a draft, she pared it down from … Continue reading When I haven’t been here…
Jennifer wants to thank her well-wishers, so she made this for everyone.
Dear readers. You've been following Jennifer's story, here and here. You've rallied with gifts and notes and advice on the best tools for this budding graphic concept artist. I thought we'd be doing really well if we raised $300 for her. Today the count totalled just over $10,000. Most of that was donations of $5-15--individuals … Continue reading Stunned
I was sitting with her, pouring out some woeful stories close to my heart. And when I finished, she chuckled and said this: "Weak men are intimidated by strong women. They don't know what to do with them. They're afraid of them." And I've been mulling that over for two weeks. I call myself a … Continue reading Strong women
When I posted about Dannah Gresh's concerning (and poorly composed) chapel sermon at Grove City College on Tuesday, I figured I wouldn't get much response. I guess I assumed that most Christian leaders are like those I grew up with -- ensconced in their own success and emotionally unmovable when criticized rightly. Pastors and teachers … Continue reading Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue
As much as I have been hurt by pretenses of care by Christians, as much as I am cynical about church ministries and the level of care they actually give, I must observe something. I am surprised and delighted to discover: all those things we're supposed to, pretend to do? Sometimes they happen organically, spontaneously. … Continue reading An observation
[This is one of the promised posts about why I chose the name "Wine & Marble." Communion has been a huge part of my spiritual life and binds me to Christianity in a way I can't really understand or explain. I'll tell my story and perhaps begin to work it out.] Sometimes I wish I … Continue reading Haunted
Coming out of a spiritually abusive situation is incredibly difficult. The first and biggest step is seeing the abuse for what it is and allowing yourself name it. Saying, "this isn't normal; this shouldn't be this way," is the watershed moment which allows you to begin see what's wrong and why. After my moment, I … Continue reading Be patient with yourself.