Being seen, being heard

"I just don't feel heard," she texted me. "I know, but I hear you," I thought. *** Awkward silence was the norm in the kitchen at one place I worked. You'd slip in for coffee or water or your lunch, and shuffle around each other with cringing politeness and fumble for what you came for in … Continue reading Being seen, being heard

Strong women

I was sitting with her, pouring out some woeful stories close to my heart. And when I finished, she chuckled and said this: "Weak men are intimidated by strong women. They don't know what to do with them. They're afraid of them." And I've been mulling that over for two weeks. I call myself a … Continue reading Strong women

Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue

When I posted about Dannah Gresh's concerning (and poorly composed) chapel sermon at Grove City College on Tuesday, I figured I wouldn't get much response. I guess I assumed that most Christian leaders are like those I grew up with -- ensconced in their own success and emotionally unmovable when criticized rightly. Pastors and teachers … Continue reading Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue

Haunted

[This is one of the promised posts about why I chose the name "Wine & Marble." Communion has been a huge part of my spiritual life and binds me to Christianity in a way I can't really understand or explain. I'll tell my story and perhaps begin to work it out.] Sometimes I wish I … Continue reading Haunted

Be patient with yourself.

Coming out of a spiritually abusive situation is incredibly difficult. The first and biggest step  is seeing the abuse for what it is and allowing yourself name it. Saying, "this isn't normal; this shouldn't be this way," is the watershed moment which allows you to begin see what's wrong and why. After my moment, I … Continue reading Be patient with yourself.