50 Shades of Grey, Christians, and Female Sexuality

I'm pretty passionate about women needing to embrace their own sexuality without shame and without regard to male sexual desire, and today I'm over at The Friendly Atheist to review Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery's book Pulling Back the Shades, their Christian response to 50 Shades of Grey. This [is] a pervasive problem in Christian relationship books … Continue reading 50 Shades of Grey, Christians, and Female Sexuality

IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

If a divorced person told you he or she was worried about the wisdom of you marrying your fiancé[e], would you listen? Or would you disqualify her advice because of her failure to make her marriage work? Even if she did everything right according to the Christian system and listened to her parents, waited to … Continue reading IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

A Confession (a guest post)

Christian fundamentalism and Christian patriarchy hurt men too. I'm sobered and thankful for this guest post by my friend Tim. -h *** I have been avoiding this all day. All week. In one way or another, I've been avoiding this all my life. Some of you may think you know me, but you don't, not … Continue reading A Confession (a guest post)

IR: Good vs. best: things I wish I learned about dating

When one of my friends starts dating someone exclusively, I like to ask questions, to capture in my head not just the story of how he asked her out or how she warmed up to him, but to understand the essence, the thingness of what makes their new relationship attractive to them. What do you … Continue reading IR: Good vs. best: things I wish I learned about dating

Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue

When I posted about Dannah Gresh's concerning (and poorly composed) chapel sermon at Grove City College on Tuesday, I figured I wouldn't get much response. I guess I assumed that most Christian leaders are like those I grew up with -- ensconced in their own success and emotionally unmovable when criticized rightly. Pastors and teachers … Continue reading Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue

“That’s agape” [Grove City College and Intimate Partner Violence]

<< Please see the update on this situation here. >>  While I may have some mixed feelings about elements of the institution that is my alma mater, I admit, I am quite fond of Grove City College. It's a good place with good people. I am grateful for everyone there who invested in me and for the … Continue reading “That’s agape” [Grove City College and Intimate Partner Violence]

IR: Masturbation, shame, & Christian sexual ethics

My purpose with almost everything I write here is to communicate two things: 1) you are not alone and shame is not from Jesus, and 2) it is possible to develop an authentic theology of the body and live as an embodied sexual being and experience both healthy boundaries and real grace. These two things … Continue reading IR: Masturbation, shame, & Christian sexual ethics

Commonplace Links 1/31

And we're baaaack. Commonplace links went away when I stopped reading blogs for a month or so. This week there's been a fantastic rash of posts on virginity and Christian culture, and I'm really excited that this is being discussed. I have been hesitant to say so, but I have become increasingly convinced that the … Continue reading Commonplace Links 1/31