50 Shades of Grey, Christians, and Female Sexuality

I'm pretty passionate about women needing to embrace their own sexuality without shame and without regard to male sexual desire, and today I'm over at The Friendly Atheist to review Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery's book Pulling Back the Shades, their Christian response to 50 Shades of Grey. This [is] a pervasive problem in Christian relationship books … Continue reading 50 Shades of Grey, Christians, and Female Sexuality

The American Dream: Hobby Lobby, pro-life ethics, and me

Isn't the American dream autonomy over self in the face of the man, getting a little privacy and a little power -- just enough to live well and in peace? I'm not much of one for American idealism, but this bit has always resonated. We like the freedom to do was we please so long … Continue reading The American Dream: Hobby Lobby, pro-life ethics, and me

A love letter & an announcement

I've been pretty busy elsewhere this week, but I wanted to drop you a line here to keep you updated on goings-on. Mostly I've been doing a lot of writing. And procrastinating by cooking soup and creating salads and new takes on mac & cheese. A few things to share with you, though. The first is: … Continue reading A love letter & an announcement

Clare responds + some context

I think the biggest confusion in this whole my-sister-is-a-viral-blogger-after-her-first-post thing (besides the part where everyone is assuming her surname is Ettinger -- it isn't, and she's a minor. So, my parents have requested anyone using her real name please redact it for her privacy), was about why Clare cared about the modesty guidelines more than getting kicked … Continue reading Clare responds + some context

Welcome & TL;DR

UPDATE Everything crashed again, sorry, sorry, etc. We had a SNAFU with servers and switching and WordPress accounts and the fastest way to get this up and running again was to jump the gun on switching Wine & Marble to a domain of my own name, etc. It got complicated, Kiery King is a web … Continue reading Welcome & TL;DR

IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

If a divorced person told you he or she was worried about the wisdom of you marrying your fiancé[e], would you listen? Or would you disqualify her advice because of her failure to make her marriage work? Even if she did everything right according to the Christian system and listened to her parents, waited to … Continue reading IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

I have not yet begun to be proud.

Okay, so, basically, my blog is currently useless if you're not familiar with Brené Brown's work on shame, especially Daring Greatly. Just get a copy already. [On another note, I'm still working on a follow-up to my post on leaving fundamentalist thinking, but I've moved this week and had a family member in the hospital and … Continue reading I have not yet begun to be proud.

The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

Fundamentalism isn't an ideology, it's a habit of thought patterns. Fundamentalism is based in fear. Fear of not being heard, fear of being invalidated, fear of attack, of erasure, of silencing. Fundamentalism can be present in any community regardless of ethics or system of belief. The reason that I started questioning the Christian fundamentalism I … Continue reading The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

IR: Agency

One of the things that has been a constant struggle for me, as a woman leaving the world of Christian patriarchy, has been reconciling reality to my learned "right" responses. I have to be gutsy and take charge of my life and heed my personality type and my needs and make sure I'm living in … Continue reading IR: Agency