The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

Fundamentalism isn't an ideology, it's a habit of thought patterns. Fundamentalism is based in fear. Fear of not being heard, fear of being invalidated, fear of attack, of erasure, of silencing. Fundamentalism can be present in any community regardless of ethics or system of belief. The reason that I started questioning the Christian fundamentalism I … Continue reading The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

IR: “Biblical Grounds”

I feel like Stuff Christian Culture Likes is the comedy version of my Immodesty Rail pieces. If you don't know Stephanie Drury's work yet, check it out. Her best work may be her themed Twitter search-and-retweet moments. So, along those lines: stuff Christian culture likes [to do]: Demand inappropriate justification for deeply personal decisions. Maybe … Continue reading IR: “Biblical Grounds”

The good things: thankfulness link-up

I think it's silly how so many of us took to the blogs when the Church gatekeepers wouldn't listen to us, and how so many of us are now so invested in policing each other. To counter that, I'd like to talk about this year. This year has been terrible, you all know that. My … Continue reading The good things: thankfulness link-up

IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

I've been quiet here since I've been traveling, driving solo from DC to LA, but the other night I had the happy experience of an evening with Sarah and Micah Murray, and we talked a lot about our stories and processing the conservative Christian world we've come out of. And I had a flash of epiphany this morning … Continue reading IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

Being seen, being heard

"I just don't feel heard," she texted me. "I know, but I hear you," I thought. *** Awkward silence was the norm in the kitchen at one place I worked. You'd slip in for coffee or water or your lunch, and shuffle around each other with cringing politeness and fumble for what you came for in … Continue reading Being seen, being heard

Growing up backwards

Two weeks ago, I was walking along the water in Hallandale Beach, FL, talking with my childhood best friend, Jori. We were comparing notes on our childhoods -- an uncanny thing if you're like me and negative memories get locked up in the subconscious. Both of our families were large, creative, unruly homeschoolers, loving to … Continue reading Growing up backwards

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: March 18-22

When someone is angry about bad things that happened to them in their church, their anger is not easily accepted by those who have only had positive experiences with Christianity. Before a survivor of spiritual abuse can tell his story, it has to be worked over, combed through, and made palatable for the intended audience. … Continue reading Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: March 18-22

Short Stories: an announcement and a giveaway

I love reading. When I was in third grade, my mom had me make a list of all the books I'd read in the last year. Once we got through the library loan records and my Sonlight reading list, I discovered that I'd read between two and three hundred books that year. When I was … Continue reading Short Stories: an announcement and a giveaway