A love letter & an announcement

I've been pretty busy elsewhere this week, but I wanted to drop you a line here to keep you updated on goings-on. Mostly I've been doing a lot of writing. And procrastinating by cooking soup and creating salads and new takes on mac & cheese. A few things to share with you, though. The first is: … Continue reading A love letter & an announcement

IR: Agency

One of the things that has been a constant struggle for me, as a woman leaving the world of Christian patriarchy, has been reconciling reality to my learned "right" responses. I have to be gutsy and take charge of my life and heed my personality type and my needs and make sure I'm living in … Continue reading IR: Agency

CJ Mahaney and Doug Phillips

No one is really surprised that Doug Phillips had an affair and is stepping down from Vision Forum Ministries. And no one is really surprised at his statement--it's the same slightly pompous and affected tone adopted by any politician caught in the spotlight of a scandal. But what really fascinates me is first, the similarities between … Continue reading CJ Mahaney and Doug Phillips

IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

I've been quiet here since I've been traveling, driving solo from DC to LA, but the other night I had the happy experience of an evening with Sarah and Micah Murray, and we talked a lot about our stories and processing the conservative Christian world we've come out of. And I had a flash of epiphany this morning … Continue reading IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

“Follow your heart”

In which I will probably sound a lot like Lauren Dubinsky, who is usually right about this stuff. The credits were rolling on the Disney princess movie. I was in a swoony-moony eight-year-old's post-Disney euphoria, soaking up the soundtrack swelling as I leaned back on my elbows on the living room carpet. I don't remember … Continue reading “Follow your heart”

IR: Jori’s story

I'm on a roll on post ideas, thanks to long conversations with Jori during my visit with her. She gave me permission to tell a story of hers here, for the benefit of anyone else who has perhaps been in a similar position. She says, "Maybe it'll keep someone from having a similar experience, or … Continue reading IR: Jori’s story

These are my scars

Hi. I'm tardy. But that's okay, right? We're all messy here. You wouldn't believe this week. But I'm going to rest this weekend. It's so needed.  Tonight I offer you my post for SAAW day 2! I'm going to write this SAAW response now, and then write the day 3 response tomorrow, if I can. … Continue reading These are my scars

SAAW guest post: Brian’s story

When Brian contacted me on Monday offering to guest post, I wasn't sure what to expect. But I was in for a treat and so are you. Brian's a good storyteller and doesn't have his own blog, so I'm delighted to be able to share his testimony of surviving spiritual abuse. We need more men … Continue reading SAAW guest post: Brian’s story

Paved with good intentions

SPIRITUAL ABUSE AWARENESS WEEK, DAY 1: My story I can’t find a way to make this a short post. I’ve been a little loath to answer this specific question since I started blogging. I prefer to tell vignettes and talk about the big picture of spiritual abuse in the church and use my story in … Continue reading Paved with good intentions