Clare responds + some context

I think the biggest confusion in this whole my-sister-is-a-viral-blogger-after-her-first-post thing (besides the part where everyone is assuming her surname is Ettinger -- it isn't, and she's a minor. So, my parents have requested anyone using her real name please redact it for her privacy), was about why Clare cared about the modesty guidelines more than getting kicked … Continue reading Clare responds + some context

An update on Clare

::UPDATE:: Please do not harass the coordinator for the prom. Her info can be found online, but I am deleting comments containing that because she does not deserve the ire of internet trolls in her inbox. The coordinator herself was not involved in the decision made. Please leave her alone. Thank you. ::end update:: Dear … Continue reading An update on Clare

“Fuck the Patriarchy” – guest post by Clare

Another week, another story of everyday sexism. My sister (a different one -- she's 17 and doing dual enrollment at the local community college to finish up her last year of high school via homeschooling and will start college on the east coast this coming fall) was supposed to go to prom this past weekend, but … Continue reading “Fuck the Patriarchy” – guest post by Clare

I need feminism because Mean Girls is 10 years old and my sister has a concussion

This week is the 10th anniversary of Mean Girls. This week a girl in my sister's school beat her up, hitting her face and head into a locker and giving her a concussion. This week I raged and cried over beer with a friend after work because I'm nearly 3,000 miles away from home and can't … Continue reading I need feminism because Mean Girls is 10 years old and my sister has a concussion

Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

I’m pretty sarcastic and snarly at the patriarchy most days, but I’ve recently gotten more fed up than usual and we need to talk. Sit down. Pour a cuppa or a finger of whiskey or a beer or whatever you need to get through this. It's going to be a little long. And I'm scared … Continue reading Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

Introducing: The YA Wallpaper

I'm going to be giving the Immodesty Rail series a rest for now and turn to something else that's been making me excited lately. Sometimes I rant about books on Twitter. Sometimes I write stupid posts about books that annoy me. And I always I grumble about bad writing with my inner feminist curmudgeon. But … Continue reading Introducing: The YA Wallpaper

IR: Agency

One of the things that has been a constant struggle for me, as a woman leaving the world of Christian patriarchy, has been reconciling reality to my learned "right" responses. I have to be gutsy and take charge of my life and heed my personality type and my needs and make sure I'm living in … Continue reading IR: Agency

A Confession (a guest post)

Christian fundamentalism and Christian patriarchy hurt men too. I'm sobered and thankful for this guest post by my friend Tim. -h *** I have been avoiding this all day. All week. In one way or another, I've been avoiding this all my life. Some of you may think you know me, but you don't, not … Continue reading A Confession (a guest post)

Why it matters: picking the lock of Christian patriarchy

Yesterday the Feminisms Fest was all about why we're feminists. Today's question is: why does it matter? I read Emily Joy Allison's post this morning about how feminism matters to her because of her younger sisters, and chuckled, because she basically wrote my post for me. But there's a difference in our stories, and I'm … Continue reading Why it matters: picking the lock of Christian patriarchy