Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

I’m pretty sarcastic and snarly at the patriarchy most days, but I’ve recently gotten more fed up than usual and we need to talk. Sit down. Pour a cuppa or a finger of whiskey or a beer or whatever you need to get through this. It's going to be a little long. And I'm scared … Continue reading Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

Fundamentalism isn't an ideology, it's a habit of thought patterns. Fundamentalism is based in fear. Fear of not being heard, fear of being invalidated, fear of attack, of erasure, of silencing. Fundamentalism can be present in any community regardless of ethics or system of belief. The reason that I started questioning the Christian fundamentalism I … Continue reading The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

I've been quiet here since I've been traveling, driving solo from DC to LA, but the other night I had the happy experience of an evening with Sarah and Micah Murray, and we talked a lot about our stories and processing the conservative Christian world we've come out of. And I had a flash of epiphany this morning … Continue reading IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

A Confession (a guest post)

Christian fundamentalism and Christian patriarchy hurt men too. I'm sobered and thankful for this guest post by my friend Tim. -h *** I have been avoiding this all day. All week. In one way or another, I've been avoiding this all my life. Some of you may think you know me, but you don't, not … Continue reading A Confession (a guest post)

Fighting back against spanking

[Trigger warning: spanking, child abuse.] Someone found my blog recently by searching for "fought back against spanking" and that hit me hard. Whoever you are, I want to give you a hug. You're not alone. The memories triggered by that phrase aren't pleasant. In some ways, I realize I'm reliving the feelings of utter helplessness, … Continue reading Fighting back against spanking

IR: Good vs. best: things I wish I learned about dating

When one of my friends starts dating someone exclusively, I like to ask questions, to capture in my head not just the story of how he asked her out or how she warmed up to him, but to understand the essence, the thingness of what makes their new relationship attractive to them. What do you … Continue reading IR: Good vs. best: things I wish I learned about dating

Paved with good intentions

SPIRITUAL ABUSE AWARENESS WEEK, DAY 1: My story I can’t find a way to make this a short post. I’ve been a little loath to answer this specific question since I started blogging. I prefer to tell vignettes and talk about the big picture of spiritual abuse in the church and use my story in … Continue reading Paved with good intentions

Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue

When I posted about Dannah Gresh's concerning (and poorly composed) chapel sermon at Grove City College on Tuesday, I figured I wouldn't get much response. I guess I assumed that most Christian leaders are like those I grew up with -- ensconced in their own success and emotionally unmovable when criticized rightly. Pastors and teachers … Continue reading Dannah Gresh and positive dialogue

“That’s agape” [Grove City College and Intimate Partner Violence]

<< Please see the update on this situation here. >>  While I may have some mixed feelings about elements of the institution that is my alma mater, I admit, I am quite fond of Grove City College. It's a good place with good people. I am grateful for everyone there who invested in me and for the … Continue reading “That’s agape” [Grove City College and Intimate Partner Violence]