50 Shades of Grey, Christians, and Female Sexuality

I'm pretty passionate about women needing to embrace their own sexuality without shame and without regard to male sexual desire, and today I'm over at The Friendly Atheist to review Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery's book Pulling Back the Shades, their Christian response to 50 Shades of Grey. This [is] a pervasive problem in Christian relationship books … Continue reading 50 Shades of Grey, Christians, and Female Sexuality

A Confession (a guest post)

Christian fundamentalism and Christian patriarchy hurt men too. I'm sobered and thankful for this guest post by my friend Tim. -h *** I have been avoiding this all day. All week. In one way or another, I've been avoiding this all my life. Some of you may think you know me, but you don't, not … Continue reading A Confession (a guest post)

IR: Modesty, Dignity, and Gnosticism

Okay. Okay. I'm fed up with the annual Summer Modesty Argument On The Interwebz. Here's the rundown: 1) Modesty keeps men's uncontrollable sex drives in check! vs. NO THAT'S RAPE CULTURE 2) God commands modesty to honor his creation, your body! vs. Uh, modesty is a shame thing and that's the result of the fall. … Continue reading IR: Modesty, Dignity, and Gnosticism

IR: Masturbation, shame, & Christian sexual ethics

My purpose with almost everything I write here is to communicate two things: 1) you are not alone and shame is not from Jesus, and 2) it is possible to develop an authentic theology of the body and live as an embodied sexual being and experience both healthy boundaries and real grace. These two things … Continue reading IR: Masturbation, shame, & Christian sexual ethics

Haunted

[This is one of the promised posts about why I chose the name "Wine & Marble." Communion has been a huge part of my spiritual life and binds me to Christianity in a way I can't really understand or explain. I'll tell my story and perhaps begin to work it out.] Sometimes I wish I … Continue reading Haunted

Why I Make Food An Issue [guest post]

Marianne is one of the most interesting people I have ever met, and I'm excited to have her do a guest post! She graduated from my alma mater some years before I came through, and is still a legend in the English department, especially because of her play interpretation of Till We Have Faces (which I … Continue reading Why I Make Food An Issue [guest post]

Immodesty Rail: Purity Guilt

Shortly after her breakup with her serious boyfriend of two years, a friend confided in me that she worried that no good Christian guys would be interested in her, because of the things she had done with her ex. "What sorts of things?" I wondered. Her response: nothing more than your average youthful makeout sessions, … Continue reading Immodesty Rail: Purity Guilt

Place and food

"Like industrial sex, industrial eating has become a degraded, poor, and paltry thing. Our kitchens and other eating places more and more resemble filling stations, as our homes more and more resemble motels." - Wendell Berry, "The Pleasures of Eating" One afternoon during college,  a professor was lecturing on the idea that college is a … Continue reading Place and food

Immodesty Rail: Modesty and Lust

This is a less documented, more anecdotal post, as a result of my discovery a few days ago that all my books on this subject are in storage. I think I did that deliberately because I was tired of reading things that made me angry. So, this post won't have a ton of sources, but … Continue reading Immodesty Rail: Modesty and Lust

Communion and Eating

Previous posts in this series: Loving Your Food, Eating in Community, and Jesus Ate. For the benefit of my readers: I write this for Christians, with the understanding that communion is a sacrament and an essential, regular part of a healthy practice of faith and a healthy church. For my own part, I am of the … Continue reading Communion and Eating