An update on Clare

::UPDATE:: Please do not harass the coordinator for the prom. Her info can be found online, but I am deleting comments containing that because she does not deserve the ire of internet trolls in her inbox. The coordinator herself was not involved in the decision made. Please leave her alone. Thank you. ::end update:: Dear … Continue reading An update on Clare

“Fuck the Patriarchy” – guest post by Clare

Another week, another story of everyday sexism. My sister (a different one -- she's 17 and doing dual enrollment at the local community college to finish up her last year of high school via homeschooling and will start college on the east coast this coming fall) was supposed to go to prom this past weekend, but … Continue reading “Fuck the Patriarchy” – guest post by Clare

The good things: thankfulness link-up

I think it's silly how so many of us took to the blogs when the Church gatekeepers wouldn't listen to us, and how so many of us are now so invested in policing each other. To counter that, I'd like to talk about this year. This year has been terrible, you all know that. My … Continue reading The good things: thankfulness link-up

Fighting back against spanking

[Trigger warning: spanking, child abuse.] Someone found my blog recently by searching for "fought back against spanking" and that hit me hard. Whoever you are, I want to give you a hug. You're not alone. The memories triggered by that phrase aren't pleasant. In some ways, I realize I'm reliving the feelings of utter helplessness, … Continue reading Fighting back against spanking

Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy rescue: Jennifer’s story

Last Sunday night, I got a call from one of my post QF/CP buddies--we're both the oldest from big homeschooling families with some unhealthy dynamics, and we both left that world when we got married (which torqued both of our fathers, for different, but similar reasons). She and I have been discussing with some of … Continue reading Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy rescue: Jennifer’s story

Paved with good intentions

SPIRITUAL ABUSE AWARENESS WEEK, DAY 1: My story I can’t find a way to make this a short post. I’ve been a little loath to answer this specific question since I started blogging. I prefer to tell vignettes and talk about the big picture of spiritual abuse in the church and use my story in … Continue reading Paved with good intentions

Strong women

I was sitting with her, pouring out some woeful stories close to my heart. And when I finished, she chuckled and said this: "Weak men are intimidated by strong women. They don't know what to do with them. They're afraid of them." And I've been mulling that over for two weeks. I call myself a … Continue reading Strong women

Thanksgiving is for singing

My husband's family is very musical, and we spent much of the weekend singing this and that, or listening to them jam on various instruments. Kevin, some of his brothers, and their uncle prepared a rousing performance of "Bamfield's John Vanden" by The Bills, and it was the highlight of the musical festivities. [thanks to … Continue reading Thanksgiving is for singing

Disclaimer

Sometimes I write about my experiences as the oldest child from a big "Quiverfull" family and growing up in a church that was spiritually abusive. My story is my own and it provides the context for talking about hurtful assumptions or disturbing teachings which I sometimes write against. As the guinea pig of a generation … Continue reading Disclaimer