“Fuck the Patriarchy” – guest post by Clare

Another week, another story of everyday sexism. My sister (a different one -- she's 17 and doing dual enrollment at the local community college to finish up her last year of high school via homeschooling and will start college on the east coast this coming fall) was supposed to go to prom this past weekend, but … Continue reading “Fuck the Patriarchy” – guest post by Clare

Privilege, Dave Ramsey, and CONTEXT

I have a lot of mixed feelings about the Dave Ramsey-is-insensitive-and-privileged party. He wrote a ridiculous post about "habits" of rich people in which he showed that he is super out of touch with what it's like to be poor, and is a subscriber to prosperity gospel stuff, which is a lovely Gnostic sort of … Continue reading Privilege, Dave Ramsey, and CONTEXT

IR: “Biblical Grounds”

I feel like Stuff Christian Culture Likes is the comedy version of my Immodesty Rail pieces. If you don't know Stephanie Drury's work yet, check it out. Her best work may be her themed Twitter search-and-retweet moments. So, along those lines: stuff Christian culture likes [to do]: Demand inappropriate justification for deeply personal decisions. Maybe … Continue reading IR: “Biblical Grounds”

“Follow your heart”

In which I will probably sound a lot like Lauren Dubinsky, who is usually right about this stuff. The credits were rolling on the Disney princess movie. I was in a swoony-moony eight-year-old's post-Disney euphoria, soaking up the soundtrack swelling as I leaned back on my elbows on the living room carpet. I don't remember … Continue reading “Follow your heart”

Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy rescue: Jennifer’s story

Last Sunday night, I got a call from one of my post QF/CP buddies--we're both the oldest from big homeschooling families with some unhealthy dynamics, and we both left that world when we got married (which torqued both of our fathers, for different, but similar reasons). She and I have been discussing with some of … Continue reading Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy rescue: Jennifer’s story

IR: Jori’s story

I'm on a roll on post ideas, thanks to long conversations with Jori during my visit with her. She gave me permission to tell a story of hers here, for the benefit of anyone else who has perhaps been in a similar position. She says, "Maybe it'll keep someone from having a similar experience, or … Continue reading IR: Jori’s story

Growing up backwards

Two weeks ago, I was walking along the water in Hallandale Beach, FL, talking with my childhood best friend, Jori. We were comparing notes on our childhoods -- an uncanny thing if you're like me and negative memories get locked up in the subconscious. Both of our families were large, creative, unruly homeschoolers, loving to … Continue reading Growing up backwards

Tomorrow: SAAW Day 2

Just a reminder that tomorrow we'll be continuing the Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week over at Joy Bennett's blog. Here's the prompt: Your journey and consequences of spiritual abuse How has your experience affected you? What has it done to you emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, etc.? What has your journey been like? How have you gotten … Continue reading Tomorrow: SAAW Day 2

Paved with good intentions

SPIRITUAL ABUSE AWARENESS WEEK, DAY 1: My story I can’t find a way to make this a short post. I’ve been a little loath to answer this specific question since I started blogging. I prefer to tell vignettes and talk about the big picture of spiritual abuse in the church and use my story in … Continue reading Paved with good intentions