Update on Sarah

Sarah sent me this update on her school funding situation tonight! She's almost set for college -- just a few things left on her Amazon wishlist, and she leaves on Monday. Thank you to everyone who helped! I'd like to say a giant "Thank you!" to all the wonderful people who have helped me with … Continue reading Update on Sarah

IR: Jori’s story

I'm on a roll on post ideas, thanks to long conversations with Jori during my visit with her. She gave me permission to tell a story of hers here, for the benefit of anyone else who has perhaps been in a similar position. She says, "Maybe it'll keep someone from having a similar experience, or … Continue reading IR: Jori’s story

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: Concluding Thoughts

Day 3 : Why should those who haven’t been hurt care about this issue? What do you wish you could tell those who want to help but weren’t close enough to know or see your situation? What do you wish every pastor knew before starting ministry? What would make the church a safe space for … Continue reading Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: Concluding Thoughts

These are my scars

Hi. I'm tardy. But that's okay, right? We're all messy here. You wouldn't believe this week. But I'm going to rest this weekend. It's so needed.  Tonight I offer you my post for SAAW day 2! I'm going to write this SAAW response now, and then write the day 3 response tomorrow, if I can. … Continue reading These are my scars

SAAW guest post: Brian’s story

When Brian contacted me on Monday offering to guest post, I wasn't sure what to expect. But I was in for a treat and so are you. Brian's a good storyteller and doesn't have his own blog, so I'm delighted to be able to share his testimony of surviving spiritual abuse. We need more men … Continue reading SAAW guest post: Brian’s story

Paved with good intentions

SPIRITUAL ABUSE AWARENESS WEEK, DAY 1: My story I can’t find a way to make this a short post. I’ve been a little loath to answer this specific question since I started blogging. I prefer to tell vignettes and talk about the big picture of spiritual abuse in the church and use my story in … Continue reading Paved with good intentions

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: March 18-22

When someone is angry about bad things that happened to them in their church, their anger is not easily accepted by those who have only had positive experiences with Christianity. Before a survivor of spiritual abuse can tell his story, it has to be worked over, combed through, and made palatable for the intended audience. … Continue reading Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: March 18-22

When you haven’t been hurt

Sometimes I wonder how I sound to the rest of the evangelical world, to those who weren't subjected to fringe patriarchal teachings from grace-forgetting complementarians, those who never fought the fear that comes with legalism from your pulpit, those who don't have to shake the guilt hangover from their childhood churches or Christian communities. Those … Continue reading When you haven’t been hurt

His name is Jesus

I'm terrible about reading my Bible regularly. Reading the ESV or NASB still gives me flashbacks to sermons from my spiritually abusive church, or to high-stress mornings with my family during our years at that church. But my relationship to Jesus hasn't been stunted. It's grown stronger, and I've stopped being afraid like I used … Continue reading His name is Jesus

Commonplace Links 11/2

This week's collection is a little more light and brief than the last few have been. Enjoy! Joy Bennett writes on "all you need is Christ" and the inherent Gnosticism in that idea. I get so excited when other bloggers discover the significance of embodiment and the incarnation! One blogger writes on why complementarians as … Continue reading Commonplace Links 11/2