Privilege and talking about hardship

“I would be just devastated.” It’s a word I’m not allowed to use, I think. You hit a point where too many bad things have happened to you in too short a period of time, and you suddenly have no time to be devastated because you’re pretty busy working until 7pm for someone else’s startup … Continue reading Privilege and talking about hardship

Advent, à venir

I'm not really thinking about Christmas much right now. There are too many pieces of life still unresolved this December. I can't see very far ahead--this is driving in fog with my low beams on, not knowing when I'll arrive where I'm going. But I'm still walking forward, or trying to. This past weekend I spent … Continue reading Advent, à venir

The good things: thankfulness link-up

I think it's silly how so many of us took to the blogs when the Church gatekeepers wouldn't listen to us, and how so many of us are now so invested in policing each other. To counter that, I'd like to talk about this year. This year has been terrible, you all know that. My … Continue reading The good things: thankfulness link-up

Being seen, being heard

"I just don't feel heard," she texted me. "I know, but I hear you," I thought. *** Awkward silence was the norm in the kitchen at one place I worked. You'd slip in for coffee or water or your lunch, and shuffle around each other with cringing politeness and fumble for what you came for in … Continue reading Being seen, being heard

IR: Modesty, Dignity, and Gnosticism

Okay. Okay. I'm fed up with the annual Summer Modesty Argument On The Interwebz. Here's the rundown: 1) Modesty keeps men's uncontrollable sex drives in check! vs. NO THAT'S RAPE CULTURE 2) God commands modesty to honor his creation, your body! vs. Uh, modesty is a shame thing and that's the result of the fall. … Continue reading IR: Modesty, Dignity, and Gnosticism

“Follow your heart”

In which I will probably sound a lot like Lauren Dubinsky, who is usually right about this stuff. The credits were rolling on the Disney princess movie. I was in a swoony-moony eight-year-old's post-Disney euphoria, soaking up the soundtrack swelling as I leaned back on my elbows on the living room carpet. I don't remember … Continue reading “Follow your heart”

IR: Masturbation, shame, & Christian sexual ethics

My purpose with almost everything I write here is to communicate two things: 1) you are not alone and shame is not from Jesus, and 2) it is possible to develop an authentic theology of the body and live as an embodied sexual being and experience both healthy boundaries and real grace. These two things … Continue reading IR: Masturbation, shame, & Christian sexual ethics