IR: Agency

One of the things that has been a constant struggle for me, as a woman leaving the world of Christian patriarchy, has been reconciling reality to my learned "right" responses. I have to be gutsy and take charge of my life and heed my personality type and my needs and make sure I'm living in … Continue reading IR: Agency

Update on Sarah

Sarah sent me this update on her school funding situation tonight! She's almost set for college -- just a few things left on her Amazon wishlist, and she leaves on Monday. Thank you to everyone who helped! I'd like to say a giant "Thank you!" to all the wonderful people who have helped me with … Continue reading Update on Sarah

Quiverfull escapee: Sarah’s story

I've used my blog to share the story of a friend's sister after she got kicked out of her QF family home for being vegan, and you wonderful people chipped in to raise $10,000 for her to replace her clothes, art supplies, and go toward her college tuition in the fall.  This time, a 24 … Continue reading Quiverfull escapee: Sarah’s story

Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy rescue: Jennifer’s story

Last Sunday night, I got a call from one of my post QF/CP buddies--we're both the oldest from big homeschooling families with some unhealthy dynamics, and we both left that world when we got married (which torqued both of our fathers, for different, but similar reasons). She and I have been discussing with some of … Continue reading Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy rescue: Jennifer’s story

IR: Christians take dating too seriously

I didn't expect to write two angry-at-abusive-mindset posts back to back, but here I am. This needs to be said. Christians take romantic relationships too seriously. Not even just courtship-only Christians, or virgins-until-wedding-night Christians. Pretty much any sincere Christian who wants to serve God and honor him with how they handle a romantic relationship is … Continue reading IR: Christians take dating too seriously

Lonely

I often struggle with jealousy. I go to a wedding where the couple is wholeheartedly celebrated by their parents on both sides, and I feel small and petty watching them from the sidelines as they make toasts and can't say enough positive things about their children. I would hear friends talk about how restful their … Continue reading Lonely

His name is Jesus

I'm terrible about reading my Bible regularly. Reading the ESV or NASB still gives me flashbacks to sermons from my spiritually abusive church, or to high-stress mornings with my family during our years at that church. But my relationship to Jesus hasn't been stunted. It's grown stronger, and I've stopped being afraid like I used … Continue reading His name is Jesus