Sometimes I wonder how I sound to the rest of the evangelical world, to those who weren't subjected to fringe patriarchal teachings from grace-forgetting complementarians, those who never fought the fear that comes with legalism from your pulpit, those who don't have to shake the guilt hangover from their childhood churches or Christian communities. Those … Continue reading When you haven’t been hurt
Worldview textbooks and classes bother me. They were good for addressing my middle school cravings for knowledge and understanding of the outside world and how other cultures and religions understood God or the numinous. But they left me hanging. I have always desired to know more. I was the restless twelve year old who complained … Continue reading “It will not return empty”
I'm terrible about reading my Bible regularly. Reading the ESV or NASB still gives me flashbacks to sermons from my spiritually abusive church, or to high-stress mornings with my family during our years at that church. But my relationship to Jesus hasn't been stunted. It's grown stronger, and I've stopped being afraid like I used … Continue reading His name is Jesus
Coming out of a spiritually abusive situation is incredibly difficult. The first and biggest step is seeing the abuse for what it is and allowing yourself name it. Saying, "this isn't normal; this shouldn't be this way," is the watershed moment which allows you to begin see what's wrong and why. After my moment, I … Continue reading Be patient with yourself.