IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

If a divorced person told you he or she was worried about the wisdom of you marrying your fiancé[e], would you listen? Or would you disqualify her advice because of her failure to make her marriage work? Even if she did everything right according to the Christian system and listened to her parents, waited to … Continue reading IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

I've been quiet here since I've been traveling, driving solo from DC to LA, but the other night I had the happy experience of an evening with Sarah and Micah Murray, and we talked a lot about our stories and processing the conservative Christian world we've come out of. And I had a flash of epiphany this morning … Continue reading IR: Courtship, Accountability, and Performance Art Intimacy

IR: Analyzing “God told me you were the one”

Disclaimer: This is a semi-fictionalized story blended from a couple different real events in my life. All the guys who inspired this are good and well-intended men who grew up a lot afterwards. The point of this is not the guys themselves, but the ideas they assumed to be true because of the Christian culture … Continue reading IR: Analyzing “God told me you were the one”