Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

I’m pretty sarcastic and snarly at the patriarchy most days, but I’ve recently gotten more fed up than usual and we need to talk. Sit down. Pour a cuppa or a finger of whiskey or a beer or whatever you need to get through this. It's going to be a little long. And I'm scared … Continue reading Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

If a divorced person told you he or she was worried about the wisdom of you marrying your fiancé[e], would you listen? Or would you disqualify her advice because of her failure to make her marriage work? Even if she did everything right according to the Christian system and listened to her parents, waited to … Continue reading IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

IR: Agency

One of the things that has been a constant struggle for me, as a woman leaving the world of Christian patriarchy, has been reconciling reality to my learned "right" responses. I have to be gutsy and take charge of my life and heed my personality type and my needs and make sure I'm living in … Continue reading IR: Agency

IR: “Biblical Grounds”

I feel like Stuff Christian Culture Likes is the comedy version of my Immodesty Rail pieces. If you don't know Stephanie Drury's work yet, check it out. Her best work may be her themed Twitter search-and-retweet moments. So, along those lines: stuff Christian culture likes [to do]: Demand inappropriate justification for deeply personal decisions. Maybe … Continue reading IR: “Biblical Grounds”

Runaway Husbands: a book review

Divorce is hard. This year has been hard. The hardest part isn't the logistics, the moving, the financial untangling, the stress, the aching, or the loneliness. It's the fact that I still disassociate my self from the fact that divorce is now part of my story. It wasn't supposed to go this way. I followed … Continue reading Runaway Husbands: a book review