IR: Good vs. best: things I wish I learned about dating

When one of my friends starts dating someone exclusively, I like to ask questions, to capture in my head not just the story of how he asked her out or how she warmed up to him, but to understand the essence, the thingness of what makes their new relationship attractive to them. What do you … Continue reading IR: Good vs. best: things I wish I learned about dating

Immodesty Rail: Purity Guilt

Shortly after her breakup with her serious boyfriend of two years, a friend confided in me that she worried that no good Christian guys would be interested in her, because of the things she had done with her ex. "What sorts of things?" I wondered. Her response: nothing more than your average youthful makeout sessions, … Continue reading Immodesty Rail: Purity Guilt

Immodesty Rail: Modesty and Lust

This is a less documented, more anecdotal post, as a result of my discovery a few days ago that all my books on this subject are in storage. I think I did that deliberately because I was tired of reading things that made me angry. So, this post won't have a ton of sources, but … Continue reading Immodesty Rail: Modesty and Lust