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  • Introducing: The Swan Children

    February 25, 2014
    Announcements, Art, Music, Poetry, Vulnerability, Writing

    I have been waiting impatiently for this day to come, and now it’s here and I can finally tell you what I’ve been working on for the past two months. Introducing! The Swan Children: Art Without Apologies.  The Swan Children is a bimonthly online art gallery and magazine founded to curate and showcase the creative work produced by…

  • Privilege and talking about hardship

    February 18, 2014
    Beauty, Depression, Healing, Language, Privilege, Seeing Light, Writing

    “I would be just devastated.” It’s a word I’m not allowed to use, I think. You hit a point where too many bad things have happened to you in too short a period of time, and you suddenly have no time to be devastated because you’re pretty busy working until 7pm for someone else’s startup…

  • IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids

    February 5, 2014
    Christian Patriarchy, Courtship, Dating, Divorce, Fundamentalism, Immodesty Rail, leaving fundamentalism, Marriage, Sex

    If a divorced person told you he or she was worried about the wisdom of you marrying your fiancé[e], would you listen? Or would you disqualify her advice because of her failure to make her marriage work? Even if she did everything right according to the Christian system and listened to her parents, waited to…

  • I have not yet begun to be proud.

    January 8, 2014
    Christian Patriarchy, Church, Healing, Learning, leaving fundamentalism, Vulnerability

    Okay, so, basically, my blog is currently useless if you’re not familiar with Brené Brown’s work on shame, especially Daring Greatly. Just get a copy already. [On another note, I’m still working on a follow-up to my post on leaving fundamentalist thinking, but I’ve moved this week and had a family member in the hospital and…

  • Epiphany list

    January 6, 2014
    humor, Learning, Life Skills, Real Life

    I’ve been living in people’s spare bedrooms and out of suitcases for a year now, following the end of my marriage last January. Moving again this morning broke my gumption a bit, calling for some black humor about the whole situation. Appropriate for Epiphany, perhaps? So, here are Some Things I’ve Learned: 1) Never be 100%…

  • Pause

    December 19, 2013
    Announcements

    Hi everyone. Just wanted to thank you all for your thoughtful engagement of my last post, and I’m glad we’ve started this conversation. I know there’s a lot of misunderstanding regarding the context of what I posted, and I’m preparing a follow-up to expound on some things a bit to clarify what I did and…

  • The ethics of leaving fundamentalism

    December 17, 2013
    Abuse, Christian Patriarchy, Community, Fundamentalism, Grace, Healing, Learning, leaving fundamentalism, Loving a person, Relationships, Spiritual Abuse, Vulnerability

    Fundamentalism isn’t an ideology, it’s a habit of thought patterns. Fundamentalism is based in fear. Fear of not being heard, fear of being invalidated, fear of attack, of erasure, of silencing. Fundamentalism can be present in any community regardless of ethics or system of belief. The reason that I started questioning the Christian fundamentalism I…

  • IR: Agency

    December 8, 2013
    Biblical gender roles, Christian Patriarchy, Church, Divorce, Feminism, Gender, Healing, Immodesty Rail, Learning, Privilege, Quiverfull, Sovereign Grace Ministries

    One of the things that has been a constant struggle for me, as a woman leaving the world of Christian patriarchy, has been reconciling reality to my learned “right” responses. I have to be gutsy and take charge of my life and heed my personality type and my needs and make sure I’m living in…

  • Advent, à venir

    December 5, 2013
    Advent, Beauty, Doubt, Grace, Incarnation, Seeing Light

    I’m not really thinking about Christmas much right now. There are too many pieces of life still unresolved this December. I can’t see very far ahead–this is driving in fog with my low beams on, not knowing when I’ll arrive where I’m going. But I’m still walking forward, or trying to. This past weekend I spent…

  • CJ Mahaney and Doug Phillips

    December 2, 2013
    Abuse, Christian Patriarchy, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Spiritual Abuse

    No one is really surprised that Doug Phillips had an affair and is stepping down from Vision Forum Ministries. And no one is really surprised at his statement–it’s the same slightly pompous and affected tone adopted by any politician caught in the spotlight of a scandal. But what really fascinates me is first, the similarities between…

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